We all know them, "it's all about me" friends. We go where they want to go, we eat what they want to eat, we have fun like they want to have fun. And, all is good while we are complying, but God forbid, we put in a request. It all goes to hell in a hand basket and we are simply written off. Those, are not "true" friends.
In this virtual social media world, it becomes a little difficult to decipher between friends, but it really isn't that difficult. True friends are there, always, whether they give you a thumbs up or not. You don't have to speak to them every day, but when you call they are there for you to listen regardless of the time of day or even when they're elbow deep in their own crap. They are there in the good times, but most importantly, they are there in the bad times.
Friendship is not about just having fun, drinks, and posting pictures of all the good times you have. That's not being a friend, a real friend will never write you off. We understand, we get pissed off at each other at times, frustrated on occasion, aggravated maybe; but we always forgive and never judge. Real friends hang around not just in the good times but in the worst of times. We hug one another for no reason at all and realize that the fun times are just icing on the cake.
We've all been blessed with amazing friends that we've had a life time, cherish them. We've all been written off by the "all about me" friends, thank them. We all have come to a point in our lives where we know what the art of friendship is, embrace it with gratitude.
Copyright ©Lucy Tamajon 2014
I have two real friends, since grammar school. Like you said, they have been with me through the good, the bad and the ugly. In the worse of times, I have not even need to call them, they have been there. Friends can be any one a true friend only comes once in a lifetime. Those two true friends are the sisters I have never had. We have been friends for over 43 years. That my friend is the sign of a good friendship. Very well said and I agree totally with you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading! What surprises me is how even at this point in our lives there are so many of us who are still acting like we were teenagers. We haven't evolved. It's sad because friends now more than ever are so important. I've learn to treasure my friends with all my heart. They are so precious.
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