Forgiveness is one of the most difficult teachings of any
faith and the cornerstone of all.
Letting go of the anger and the pain of betrayal is so incredibly
difficult. We want to strike back, hurt
as much, as deeply, cause as much anguish, and this is isn’t enough; we not
only want all of this but we want to witness and relish the pain we cause
because it was done to us. An eye for an
eye, if you will.
Yet, none of this brings peace to our souls much less heal
our hearts. I don’t think we can ever
get over the pain of betrayal especially at the hands of someone we care
about. The ugliness is difficult to
understand.
However, it must
happen. We must forgive even the greatest
of offenders. There is no other way to
heal.
It is human nature to strike back, to hurt someone who has
hurt us, but we must reach deep within our souls and find the inner strength to
simply walk away. Any mortal can strike back but few have the heart to simply
forgive.
Forgiveness does not mean, we forget; nor does it mean we
condone. Things may never be the same,
you may never see that person again or speak to them and this is okay. It means you say, “I forgive you for what you’ve
done to me.” And that’s it. By saying and meaning that, you start the
healing for you. You put that person and
the situation in the powerful hands of the Universe. You let go and move on. This may take a while, it does not happen
overnight, but it must happen.
For me, I retrieve. I
retrieve deep into the depth of my soul and I find a quiet spot. One that no one can enter, one that is just
for me, and there in silence. I do what
I must. Sometimes, I cry. Sometimes, I scream. Often times, I curse. Sometimes, I pray. Other times, I write or paint or draw. Sometimes, I walk. Sometimes, I eat or not or have wine and then
sleep. Sometimes, I read. Lots of times I laugh, I dance, and I
sit. I do not revisit the past., only on TBT and only when it's good.
Then one day, it’s gone, the anger and
the hate replaced by nothing. You feel
nothing for that person. And, someone
wants to drag you in again into the darkness that is vengeance, and you smile, and
say, “Nah, it’s okay. It was no big
deal.” They think you are weak or stupid for
not taking the opportunity to strike back.
But, you are not at all. You are strong
enough to let go, and wise enough to move on.
And, the wound is healed, a small scar remains, but that is okay. It helps us remember the pain of betrayal and
the peace that comes from moving on.
Today, the sky seems to be a different shade of blue, a blue we have never seen before. We smile
because no one can break our spirit.
Copyright ©Lucy Tamajon 2014
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