I'm wondering how real romance is and how much is a made up fantasy in our minds? Ever since we were little girls, we were told of the infamous Prince Charming who would ride in one day on his wonderful white horse and whisk us away to his Castle. We would live “happily ever after.” Well, where is he already?
I think women are so exhausted waiting for the dashing Prince that we are starting to hallucinate. I'm taken back by how many “mature” women are still not only waiting for Prince Charming but see him where he doesn't exist!
It seems we see things that don't exist. We pick up “signals” that aren't really “signals” at all, and we wind up making fools of ourselves. Our quest for Prince Charming has diluted what is reality, and as we sit and sip our Martinis we seem to see our infamous Prince on the horizon.
The plot thickens when we are given what seems to be the social platform of the 21st Century, Facebook. Here we can hide behind a shield that only reveals bits and pieces of who we are. At times, creating a character that we once read about and isn't real at all. We read too much into a status or a song posted on a friend's wall and think, “it must be for me! Yes!! He is talking to me!” We dream and dream and think this is where he is! It's a desperate attempt of living life behind the wall created by no one other than yourself.
Once upon a time, there was a fairy tale land. Reality tells us differently. We are all just human trying to get through this messy thing called life. So, put the fairy tale down, appreciate the man you've got, count your blessings for the romances that you've had, and move on.
Friday, October 29, 2010
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Back to the Future
It's funny how life works. I am one who believes that looking back at your past gets you little. It really doesn't do much to wallow in the past for how can you move forward, if you are stuck in the past.
However, this weekend has thrown me a huge curve ball, and if I learned anything from sitting at dozens upon dozens of my boys baseball games, it's how to hit a curve. You sit back, wait, and swing.
I am sitting, as we speak, and looking back into my past to find my future. I fear that I may turn into a pillar of salt; or melt away into a puddle of regrets; or perhaps, I may just simply find the answers to my destiny burried in the past.
Either way, I must head out on an excavation of sort. I must dig deep and search far into the past to move forward in my life. I'm prepared for this journey of the heart.
I'm excited for what will I find on this quest Back to the Future?
How about you? What dreams have you burried deep in your heart that need to be rescued?
However, this weekend has thrown me a huge curve ball, and if I learned anything from sitting at dozens upon dozens of my boys baseball games, it's how to hit a curve. You sit back, wait, and swing.
I am sitting, as we speak, and looking back into my past to find my future. I fear that I may turn into a pillar of salt; or melt away into a puddle of regrets; or perhaps, I may just simply find the answers to my destiny burried in the past.
Either way, I must head out on an excavation of sort. I must dig deep and search far into the past to move forward in my life. I'm prepared for this journey of the heart.
I'm excited for what will I find on this quest Back to the Future?
How about you? What dreams have you burried deep in your heart that need to be rescued?
Monday, October 25, 2010
Love at First Sight
The question seemed simple enough, “let me ask you something.” My friend said. “Sure. Shoot.” I smiled. “Do you believe in love at first sight?”
Without hesitation, I replied, “Yes. Yes, I do.” I think I shocked both my girlfriends out of their seats.
“Really? But, how can it be love if you don't know the person? Isn't it lust?”
Of course, not. The soul knows. It knows instantly when it meets the person that it was meant to spend forever with. Too bad we think too much. We stop and think and listen to the thoughts that drown the heart.
I know this sounds strange coming from me because most of you think that I don't believe in love at all. What I don't believe in is bullshit. That, I can do without. Love is a whole different ball game.
Yes, there is such a thing as seeing someone for the first time and “falling” in love just by one look, a smile, a simple hello. It happens when you least expect it. It happens at a moment when the universe stands still, the planets align, and the earth and the stars collide. It happens without warning and when it does, you know it because your heart will tell you so. Your heart will skip a beat, your throat will go dry, and your face will become flushed. You'll try to say something witty, but you won't. You'll try to look just right, but it won't matter. All you will do is wish the moment will be frozen in time, and it will.
It will be that moment etched in your heart that will bring warmth on cold lonely nights. It will be that smile from so long ago that you will never forget. It will be that first awkward hello that will make you giggle in a crowded dinner table years later. It will be that first kiss that you shared that will warm your tired soul, and it will be your beautiful secret.
Yes, I believe in love at first sight, I also have a vivid imagination.
Without hesitation, I replied, “Yes. Yes, I do.” I think I shocked both my girlfriends out of their seats.
“Really? But, how can it be love if you don't know the person? Isn't it lust?”
Of course, not. The soul knows. It knows instantly when it meets the person that it was meant to spend forever with. Too bad we think too much. We stop and think and listen to the thoughts that drown the heart.
I know this sounds strange coming from me because most of you think that I don't believe in love at all. What I don't believe in is bullshit. That, I can do without. Love is a whole different ball game.
Yes, there is such a thing as seeing someone for the first time and “falling” in love just by one look, a smile, a simple hello. It happens when you least expect it. It happens at a moment when the universe stands still, the planets align, and the earth and the stars collide. It happens without warning and when it does, you know it because your heart will tell you so. Your heart will skip a beat, your throat will go dry, and your face will become flushed. You'll try to say something witty, but you won't. You'll try to look just right, but it won't matter. All you will do is wish the moment will be frozen in time, and it will.
It will be that moment etched in your heart that will bring warmth on cold lonely nights. It will be that smile from so long ago that you will never forget. It will be that first awkward hello that will make you giggle in a crowded dinner table years later. It will be that first kiss that you shared that will warm your tired soul, and it will be your beautiful secret.
Yes, I believe in love at first sight, I also have a vivid imagination.
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